You tend to say "yes" to everything....

Taking care of yourself is a genuine way of showing self-love. Self-care involves actions that help maintain your physical and mental well-being. Unfortunately, in our daily lives, we often get too busy or caught up in the chaos around us, neglecting our needs. Sometimes, we find it hard to say "no" to everything, which results in headaches, stress, anxiety, and a lack of focus on essential tasks, like completing work or doing laundry.

Have you heard of the Sacrificing Self Paradox? It is a common phenomenon where we sacrifice our own needs and desires for the sake of those around us, hoping it will make us happy. However, this often leaves us feeling overwhelmed and depleted, causing us to lose touch with self-love and self-acceptance.

Instead of embracing who you indeed are, you end up focusing on who you think you should be. It's time to change this pattern, redirect your focus on yourself, and identify what you want and like and how to achieve your goals.

When you do this, your inner light shines brighter. It boosts your confidence and certainty, making your path ahead more transparent and more straightforward. Taking care of yourself doesn't mean you're selfish or neglecting others. In fact, prioritizing your own well-being boosts your confidence, kindness, and resilience, which in turn positively affects your relationships with others.

As my mentors have taught me, "Peace begins with me." So, remember this phrase and repeat it to yourself whenever you feel lost or out of place. This phrase helped me the most when I was not aligned with the person I wanted to be. I had become so focused on seeking validation externally that my life felt chaotic. Everything started falling apart, including relationships, opportunities, events, and meetings. It was then that I realized I didn't love myself. I needed to take a step back and establish a new routine that prioritized my own well-being.

Therefore, in 2021, I began decluttering people who no longer fit into my life and started saying "no" to more situations. I established a routine that included having coffee, practicing meditation, reading, and walking. Developing a daily self-care habit and maintaining consistency helped me increase positivity in my life.

Additionally, this shift in focus allowed me to embrace abundance rather than fear of making mistakes. Instead of obsessing over accomplishing everything and being the best at everything. I learned to value and be content with what I already had and focused on finding inner peace.

Remember that your focus shapes what you observe and draw into your life. Concentrate on what genuinely matters to you instead of overexerting yourself to satisfy others and disregarding your needs. Take a moment to write it down and envision it every day. I find note cards and vision boards effective reminders for this purpose.

Self-care is essential, and I wanted to share one more thing about it! Neglecting self-care can negatively impact different aspects of our lives, leaving us feeling unfulfilled and out of balance. That's why it's crucial to prioritize taking care of ourselves.

As always, feel free to reach out for more ideas on self-love and building confidence!

Kate

Confidence Coach